If you have seen that you reach your boiling point quickly and react excessively when your children misbehave, and have been warned that you are overreacting, this is a clear indication that you should consider making adjustments. Here are some ways to determine whether you overreact and what you can do about it.
How does your body feel? Tense? Hot? Are you perspiring? Does your heart race? This indicates that you are likely overreacting to the issue. If yes, go to the following section and pause.’
Take a minute
Ensure your children’s safety and remove yourself from the situation for a short time. Take a few moments to concentrate on your breathing. If you need to go away for a time, do so and remind yourself, “I must manage this situation better and more calmly in order to achieve a better outcome for everyone.”
Permit yourself a few seconds to quiet and rebalance your emotions. Remember how unjust and hurtful it is to have an angry outburst at your children if you are the source of the issue.
Do speak with family, friends, or a counsellor; there is nothing to be embarrassed about, and it is quite informative to examine your behaviour and want to make changes.
HOW TO SOOTHE YOURSELF IN UNDER 60 SECONDS
1. Contract your muscles as firmly as possible for 10 seconds, and then release them gently for 10 seconds. The phrase is repeated three times.
2. Play your favourite music, preferably one that evokes fond memories.
3. Make a phone call to your spouse, a friend, or a co-worker who will listen to you vent your frustrations.
If you have become upset with your kid and feel awful about it, keep in mind that children are not adults and, as a result, do not have the same mental maturity and decision-making skills as adults. Children are at a learning phase and are inclined to imitate the behaviours you display. In order to assist your kid learn, try to set a good example, maintain your composure, and be careful to explain the “why” behind your requests.
If you are concerned about your rage levels, you are probably dissatisfied. Stress and pressure are typically the cause of anger, and assistance is available. Speak with your doctor about obtaining anger management services.