The Hidden Scars: Body Shaming’s Impact on Kids
- by WONDERMOM
- Sept. 16, 2023
Hey all you wonderful mamas and papas out there! We’ve all felt it, haven’t we? The slight pinch in our hearts when we compare our own bodies to those we see in movies or magazines. But, have you ever wondered about the trauma in kids caused by such body shaming and peer comparison?
Why Body Shaming Is Not Just “Teasing”
First, let’s set the record straight. Telling your child that they’re “too skinny” or “chubby” isn’t just innocent teasing. It plants a tiny seed of doubt in their minds, making them question if they are good enough. The trauma in kids can be real, profound, and lasting. Just as we nurture their dreams and ambitions, it’s essential to be cautious of their self-image and self-worth.
Peer Comparison: The Silent Offender
Thanks to social media, kids today don’t just compare themselves to their school friends, but to youngsters worldwide. When they see their peers getting hundreds of likes on a picture-perfect image, it can make them feel like they’re missing out or not measuring up. Remember the childhood saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? Well, in the age of Instagram and TikTok, it’s more like, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but online likes (or the lack thereof) can devastate me!”
Facing the Trauma in Kids
As parents, we might think our kids are resilient. They are, but that doesn’t mean they’re immune to societal pressures. The trauma in kids, thanks to body shaming, can manifest in various ways. They might become withdrawn, excessively conscious about what they eat, or reluctant to participate in activities they once loved.
And here’s a bit of wisdom for all you fantastic parents – it’s not about overprotecting, but about empowering! Encourage them to embrace their uniqueness, because every freckle, curve, or lanky limb tells a story, their story.
A Fun Activity: Celebrate Uniqueness
Here’s a delightful little activity for you and your munchkin(s). On a lazy Sunday, gather around with family photos – from baby pics to recent ones. Take turns pointing out what you love about each picture. Maybe it’s dad’s wild, curly hair or mom’s button nose. Teach them to celebrate every bit of themselves and their loved ones. Not only will this be a fun trip down memory lane, but it’ll also instill a sense of self-love and acceptance.
So, the next time you see your little one looking wistfully at an image or overhear them making a comparison, pull them into a hug and remind them of their uniqueness. After all, as Dr. Seuss said, “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?”
P.S. – Chocolate chip cookies are unique too; no two are ever the same, yet they’re all delicious. Just like us!